Updated: Apr 28, 2022
Have you ever left a disagreement by dropping the line "I couldn't care less."
And then proceeded to ruminate over the other person's actions for hours, days, weeks, years????
If you answer yes, congratulations, you are human.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Science. It's called the negativity bias.
According to an article published on verywellmind.com:
''Negative information causes a surge in activity in a critical information processing area of the brain, our behaviors and attitudes tend to be shaped more powerfully by bad news, experiences, and information.''
We anchor to these negative emotions because it's actually comforting and rewarding for our brain. Weird. But True.
We pay a high price for rumination. We crowd out the opportunity for joy and positivity.
So how to we stick to our "couldn't care less'' guns?
Practice. With my life coaching clients I teach a tool called "The Model'' from The Life Coach School. It's based on cognitive behavioral therapy practices. I'm not a therapist, but these tools are widely available to the public and POWERFUL tools to overcoming anxiety, depressive episodes, and unnecessary rumination.
How does it work? Simply said, you choose better thoughts.
I know, it sounds too simple and even counterproductive. We often believe deeply that it is productive to run our negative thoughts and stories on replay. But honestly, is that resulting in action or improvement. I'll wager the answer is no.
Want to learn more about using these tools to create space and openness in your life? What would emerge if you could nip negativity within seconds and move on to better thoughts.
I know what happens;-)
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