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I Want To Move

But my husband doesn’t.


Is it ok to ask for what I want even with it’s not what others want?


Here’s my current version of this situation.


6 years ago my husband and I bought a small hobby farm. We have a large garden, pigs, ducks, chickens, and acreage.


Over the years we have offered a CSA, hosted supper clubs and offered community garden space.


I was genuinely curious when we started and I headed up all of these offerings. I have pulled back on all of them.


I am still living the farm life. It is quiet and bucolic.


But for me, it’s increasingly lonely and time consuming. And there’s animal poop and dirt everywhere.


It’s a lot of work. It creates obstacles in daily life that are at times overwhelming to me.


I fantasize about a house in town near the lake. Schools and shops I can walk to seem absolutely divine.


I really want something that allows me to focus on family and this business that I love.


So this has been an evolution. I have changed. I want something different.


My husband loves our farm. It is a part of his identity. He loves his pigs and his baby chickens and would roll around in the dirt for hours.


Oneka Shores Farm is Steve’s happy place.


I get emotional thinking about how much he loves it.


And here we are…..at an impasse.


How could I possibly ask for a .25 acre city lot with neighbors and sidewalks????


But if I flip it….How could he possibly ask his wife to ignore her desires?


I cannot think of a single time that I have ever asked someone to do something for me that was definitely something they did not want.


What kind of person does that??


But why am I willing to be on the other side of this equation at the expense of what I want.


So how do I proceed??????


I am going to get coaching on it. I cannot get myself through this one without some help.


I need someone to pick apart my brain and my thoughts. I need help pulling out what part of my story is bullshit and what parts are real and actionable.


When I’m this deep in the emotions of a situation I need help from a neutral party to get perspective.


The coach needs coaching.


All people can benefit from coaching. Coaching isn’t for broken people who need a miraculous turnaround.


Coaching is for anyone with a brain and emotions.


If you would like help weeding through some of your baggage, schedule a consult.


Let’s make decisions and free up your brain so that you can enjoy life.





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