This just keeps happening.....Is the title of a podcast I recently found.
The title really hooked me. Because it does, doesn’t it??? Every day the same stuff just keeps happening.
We have the same arguments, the same routines and the same results.
At work, at home and for me….in my head.
The science for this is well known. Behavior patterns repeat because of deeply trenched neural pathways in our brains. We are goldfish. We are frogs gradually rising to a boil.
Yet in spite of acute self-awareness, we rarely make proactive, meaningful change.
This is why I personally have a long standing relationship with a coach and I am in a formalized peer group.
I rely on people who know me, but are not in my goldfish bowl because they can offer advice on how to escape the hot water that I may not even recognize.
You've been there. I know you've heard others going on about problems that seem so simple to you. You may wonder, why don't they just ________?????
I guarantee you also have problems other people see as simple.
External resources who know us, but don't spend every day with us can see through the complexities that blind us to simple solutions.
The most effective resources are those that we stick with for long periods of time.
Our lives are not snapshots. They are an evolution. When a peer group or a coach rides along with us they can give meaningful advice because they understand the complexities of our lives.
Deep relationships form over time and the group becomes a natural extension of our leadership team, family and community.
Of course I am biased because I lead a Vistage group and I am a member of Wired Collective, the brainchild of Jen Lindahl.
I have personally experienced the sense of isolation that comes from sitting at the top of an organization.
Without a formalized group, I am not good at reaching out for help and friendship. It's wonderful to have a scheduled time and place to meet with people who are supporting my career and business.
If you don't have a group of talented, driven people challenging and supporting you, find one. There are so many fantastic options in every major city. EO, SOAR, Vistage, Hampton and Wired are a few of my favorites. They range in cost and meeting style so you can find a group that fits your needs.
If you are in a peer group, please share. What do you like about it? How has it helped you?
May you live and LeadWell,
~E
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